10 things we Need to Let Go of in Life.

1 Letting go of the physical-only, understanding of being

Each and every one of us is unique. We were born to stand out and be different, and yet we spend so much of our lives trying to fit in. We bend ourselves and our true personalities out of shape trying to fit in, trying to be accepted, and this can often mean that we dismiss and dismantle our authentic selves. 

 

2 letting go of the fear of not being enough

From birth to eight, our brains are operating in what is known as theta waves. When we are born, we are not born with fear or with comparison or self-criticism. We are born with curiosity, with self-expression, with a simple desire and openness to be loved and with an inner drive to grow, to express ourselves as we are. It is important to remember that comparison, self-judgement and self-criticism are things that we learn, they are skills and thinking habits that we create within ourselves. Learning to accept and love ourselves fully as we are is the starting point of positive transformation that is founded on love and acceptance and not fear and rejection. .

 

3 letting go of past trauma

‘Anything that overwhelms and overloads our central nervous system and causes it to become unbalanced, over-agitated and overactive.

Your emotions and thoughts fire specific pathways in your brain. Each time you fire these pathways, your brain doesn’t know if the experience is happening again or if you are simply remembering it. Your brain won’t take a chance, so it presumes that the trauma is happening again and it creates all the same physical, mental, emotional, chemical and physiological responses as the original incident. You are therefore re- experiencing the trauma over and over again, as if it is happening again.

Unless you take time to fully heal the trauma and release it from your body, mind and energy, your central nervous system will keep responding to it over and over again. It will keep you locked in a frozen state of being that may very well have nothing to do with the reality of your current external world, but with a memory or expectation.

 

4 letting go of egos and labels

Our ego is the part of us that clings to things like our past, our traumas, our memories and our beliefs and combines all these things to give us a label for us to identify with. Eliminate the perception of separateness. Become aware of the stories we tell ourselves.

 

5 letting go of your constructed self

If you don’t know who you are, if you don’t have a strong and committed relationship with your inner self you will spend your life looking for other people to tell you who you are and chasing goals and careers that other people said were important. 

 

6 letting go of restrictive mindsets

Viktor Frankels book a man’s search for meaning. You can’t choose what happened to you but you can choose how you react. “Everything can be taken from a man but one thing, the last of the human freedom, to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way”. What does holding onto anger and bitterness do to us? 

 

7 letting go of old thinking habits and creating new brain pathways

Neuroplasticity is the ability of the brain to constantly reshape itself in response to what you say, what you listen to and what you think about. Visualation is a powerful practice for this. Vision boards. Meditation. 

 

8 letting go of our association with struggle

We need to break away from the belief that pain and struggle are necessary for success. We need to break away from the belief that pain and struggle are part of life.

 

9 letting go of the fear of change and the fear of the unknown

It is our ego that resists change and the unknown.it is not the unknown that we fear, what we fear is what we project into the unknown. Refocus your self talk. Deconstruct excuses. Visualisation. See you why everyday. Be aware of where you are putting your energy. Reframe failure. Remember past successes. Be present. 

 

10 letting go of the dis-ease of distraction

A distracted mind is not capable of seeing the opportunities in the external world, it is limited to seeing and experiencing only the chaos inside. We can wrongly associate “busy” with “productive” and even more sadly, equate our self-esteem with our productivity.